Toxicity: The degree to which a substance (a toxin or poison) can harm humans or animals. Acute toxicity involves harmful effects in an organism through a single or short-term exposure. – MedicineNet
For many, daily life is full of stress. We have tremendous load of responsibilities that push us close to our grumpy limits. Hence it is extremely important to subside stressors that pose threat to our mental, physical and emotional well-being.
Just like toxins, toxic people can do serious harm. However, unlike toxins there is no warning from threats posed by such people. Thus, relying on our judgement and instincts are the only options to effectively counteract such people.
People with emotional intelligence and other similar characteristics are often the most successful in handling toxic people. This leads to our topic of the article, that is, how to smartly and efficiently deal with toxic people.
Psychology Today defines the term as “accurate appraisal and understanding of your abilities and preferences and their implications for your behavior and their impact on others.”
Being self-aware is also a very powerful tool, one that’s necessary. It allows us to understand, acknowledge and account for any threat that could “throw us off our game”.
2.Forgive, but don’t forget.
Intelligence is complicated, it’s not only the grey matter that is the determinant of our intellect. Emotional intelligence beats all when it comes to handle toxic people.
One should understand that forgiveness is a necessary part of psychological well-being. However, it is equally important to not forget the ones who betrayed your trust.
3.Be unaffected by circumstance.
Well it isn’t that easy to remain emotionally neutral amongst toxic people, but that is a necessity. Emotional intelligence attributes to resilience, which plays an important role when dealing with such people.
Resilience could be defined as: “that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever.” Well toxic people knock down many people, but it is indeed resilience that helps us come back strong.
4.Quickly establish Boundaries.
One should possess the essential ability to be effective and productive. This way, one ca easily mitigate any threats to their efficiency. Hence, when one encounters toxic people, he/she should immediately take swift action.
But that does not mean to be rude or abrasive. Instead have a polite yet firm approach with unambiguous and uncompromising attitude. Just don’t allow others to affect you in any way, shape or form.
While toxic people survive by draining out others energy, one should survive by maintaining their energy supply. Being “energy-smart” simply means to understand and manage one’s energy effectively.
Being energy-smart, we will conserve our precious resource instead of letting toxic people drain it away.
6.Focus on the task at hand.
Toxic people are just like a distraction that will divert your mind from more important tasks at hand. In fact, many toxic people intend to distract others with their tricks.
One should allow this at all, instead focus on the what needs to be done and move forward, regardless of who’s around.
7.Look for your support system.
One should have a driven personality, to seek a better life for oneself and the loved ones. It is quite likely that this way, one will understand the significance of mentorship and teamwork.
Hence, when faced with a challenge of toxic people, one will have support network to rectify the situation.
8.Quickly check negative self-talk.
Everyone is susceptible to negative self-talk every time. Toxic people can easily induce negative thoughts to anyone who is unprepared for such case, and this can happen to any of us.
However, one should immediately realize and neutralize such thing.
9.Be solution oriented.
As obvious by now, one should have the talent of finding solutions to problems. Dealing with such toxic people is just like any other problem which demands a solution. Typically, one should assess their options and take actions accordingly.